Toxic Positivity: Do We Have To Feel Bad for Feeling Bad?

Do we have to feel bad for feeling bad?

NO! Feelings are hard enough.

I’ll also add that hurt people hurt people and sometimes when we’re feeling bad, we misdirect our feelings into words and actions we can’t take back. Then we feel bad for feeling bad AND making someone else feel bad. Fortunately, this is a habit we can break. We can learn to better process and express these emotions so that we don’t compound our pain.

Toxic positivity is what happens when people don’t feel safe expressing negative emotions.

The main focus of most companies is on their bottom line. So it would behoove these companies to better understand how they bleed money when they enable a toxic work environment, including discouraging expression of emotion in the workplace, both positive and negative emotions.

Denying a human being the ability to let emotions show and be healthfully processed can backfire in big ways. The worst of those ways is disgruntled employee violence. It creates a powder keg situation. Suppressing negative emotions is dangerous for the individual’s health and for the people around them.

In our next monthly Answer the Call to Conscious Leadership event, Dr. Laura Dowling will share some of the latest research on the impact of toxic positivity. She will also provide leaders with guidance about how to create an environment where negative emotions can be expressed healthfully so that they don’t turn into costly turnover, absenteeism, presenteeism, and morale killers. She’ll also share some ways that individuals can learn to healthfully process and express negative emotions so that we don’t injure others with our emotions.

Request to join the C3 Community today so you can join us for this live event tomorrow (Thursday) at 1:00 PM ET. If you can’t make it live, fret not! The replay will also be available for you to watch at your convenience inside of the C3 Community.


Karen Huller is the creator of the Corporate Consciousness Ripple Blueprint and author of Laser-sharp Career Focus: Pinpoint your Purpose and Passion in 30 Days. She founded Epic Careering, a leadership and career development firm specializing in executive branding and conscious culture, in 2006. 

While the bulk of her 20 years of professional experience has been within the recruiting and employment industry, her publications, presentations, and coaching also draw from experience in personal development, performance, broadcasting, marketing, and sales. Her solutions incorporate breakthroughs in neuroscience, human performance optimization, bioenergetics, and psychology to help leaders accelerate rapport, expand influence, and elevate engagement and productivity while also looking out for the sustainability of the business and the planet.

Mrs. Huller was one of the first LinkedIn trainers and is known widely for her ability to identify and develop new trends. She is a Certified Professional Résumé Writer, Certified Career Transition Consultant, and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist with a Bachelor of Art in Communication Studies and Theater from Ursinus College and a minor in Creative Writing. Her blog was recognized as a top 100 career blog worldwide by Feedspot. 

She was an Adjunct Professor in Cabrini University’s Communications Department and an Adjunct Professor of Career Management and Professional Development at Drexel University’s LeBow College of Business. She is an Instructor for the Young Entrepreneurs Academy (YEA) where some of her students won the 2018 national YEA competition, were named Ernst & Young’s America’s Next Top Young Entrepreneurs, and won the 2019 People’s Choice Award. 

She is board secretary for the Upper Merion Community Center and just finished serving as Vice President of the Gulph Elementary PTC, for which she received recognition as a Public Education Partner and Promoter from the Upper Merion Area Education Association. She lives in King of Prussia with her husband, two daughters, and many pets, furry, feathered, and scaly.

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